Monday, February 10, 2014

The Bond of Brothers

If you know me, you know I'm the first one to admit that I was absolutely certain my third child was going to be a girl. From the moment I found out we were expecting I could just feel it... her name was going to be Savannah Kaitlyn Graham and I even bought her the perfect yellow and blue toile bedding just weeks into my pregnancy. The only problem was Savannah wasn't a quite the girl my heart was set on... At my 20-week sonogram the doctor told me (and many members of my family who were in the room) that we were having another BOY. I hate to admit it, but after I told him to "check again", I sat there and cried.

Of course we were blessed with my beautiful baby, Kyle Logan Graham, more than 4 years ago. He's quite the crazy little man and has the funniest little facial expressions. I can't imagine my life without him. But every now and then, Savannah creeps into my mind... I often think - I wonder why God gave me a second boy when I felt so strongly that I was having another girl? It's an easy answer though, one that I've known for a long time.

See I've come to determine that boys need brothers, especially my boys. Ashley on the other hand is perfectly content being the only "princess" in the house. But JD and Kyle, they were meant to be together. Together they are wild, crazy, messy boys. They drive me absolutely MAD, but they love every moment of being together. You can't have one without the other.

But God knew what he was doing when he gave me Kyle because he knew more than I yearned for another girl, JD would need a brother in his life. Kyle never judges JD. He only admires him as the perfect big brother. JD can do no wrong in Kyle's eyes. I know one day Kyle will realize that JD has special needs, but what I also know is that the moment he does, he will stand fearlessly against anyone who may treat him any less than normal. That's exactly why Kyle has the personality that he does. He's not only the amazing little baby in our family, but one day, he'll actually play the big brother role for JD since there's a good chance that his developmental age will be older than JD in just a few years.

Having boys is not for the weary, and I don't know how many time I want to pull out my hair and scream from the shenanigans, but I love them. And most of all, I love that they have a bond that can never be taken away. Brothers for life... oh I'm in for it!